. I try to get dressed in the dark for as long as I can. And than when I have to turn on the lights, I try to cover their eyes with my robe when I remember Lolol
I can only write from one point of view.
My opinions, ideas, come from the point of view of a 24 year of Latina girl. Simply put.
Everything about me, creates my opinions, thoughts, feelings.
I am not every woman, every Latina, 24-year-old, every girlfriend. I am not white, I could never tell you how a white lady feels. I am not black, I could never tell you how being black feels. I don’t have a penis. So I can’t tell you about problems that penis having people have. I just can’t. So my opinions may not apply to you, but that is okay. That is why you have your own.
This is the only woman I can be, I am the only woman I can speak for.
When people carry this idea through their writings. I feel that it takes away from me, because someone decided to be every woman. Female gender does not have 1 identity.
How To Be A Bad Bitch
Before any review, I want to tell people to read it for themselves, theirself? Whatever.
So I linked it above just so you can order yourself one!
My expectations are really high. I want Amber to SMASH down all those stereotypes that put women down. I want her be unapologetic for who she is, and tell everyone to do the same. I want her to show girls that relationships with other girls are so important, and to help other women succeed.
A lot of women, girls don’t hear these things enough. I love when celebrities do what they want shamelessly. I want her to be smart, cunning, I want her to use facts, and know how to cite them.
After reading it…
Somethings I really liked. Other things I felt Amber really contradicted herself. The first few chapters are very repetitive. She focuses heavily on achieving her look, and how she came to find hers. Which got boring quickly.
I loved some parts and other parts I did not. She was all about empowering other women. How to love yourself, how to dress for yourself. I loved all these ideas and positivity she came forward with.
Her honesty, and her point of view were refreshing. I truly appreciate her past, and how that creates her ideas, and the way she thinks. It is something that is very different from myself and I love that I can see through sher eyes.
Some parts I found slightly offensive. (EX: She talks about a girl who is not that attractive but because she dancing like she doesn’t give a fuck- she becomes attractive) I hated this line. She is being so contradicting on all her preaching about how all women are beautiful and not to let another persons definition of beauty define you. But than she says this. Rose goes on to talk about what kind of friends all girls should have. She says every girl should have a gay best friend because they are always up on all the fashion, trends, makeup etc.. I feel like this makes takes away gay people’s humanity and makes them more of a token. Which bothers me. (But what does that mean because as a non gay person. I can’t say what is or what is not offensive.) Another part I didn’t like, was when she talks about how important it is to have manners and be nice to everyone. It’s a little reminiscent of step ford wives. Women can never be angry or show that you are upset. Keep calm and lady like. I hate that shit. If you are angry be angry and say some shit in the moment. I don’t think you always have to prim and proper. Moving forward. I disliked her section about what guys like. “Girls that play video games are always liked by boys” , girls who burp and fart are not attractive. Girls that get jealous. This is some stupid ass shit. Ignore it all.
I feel like she kind of missed the mark on pushing her feminist agenda.
However I appreciate her effort. In anything else, finding your true feelings and ideas takes time and learning. She points out how she used to slut shame, and how she came to the realization that it was wrong. And how she now knows it’s wrong and tries to stop people from making those same mistakes. Her compassion for people and seeing her try to be the person she didn’t have growing up is really endearing. She draws from her own life trials and makes it into a positive thing.
Amber Rose touches on her depression, and her anxiety. She describes it as a constant struggle and something she still deals with today. Being honest about depression is something that isn’t common. It is one of those diseases, that is kept in the dark. She gives tips on how she personally handles herself.
She parallels, her past as a exotic dancer as being in business classes. She says that she had to learn to make men take their hard earned money out of her pocket and put it in her hand. I loved this part. She is unapologetic, she is honest about knowing how to use seduction to get what she wanted.
Rose focused heavily on the importance of relationships with other women and how important it is to hold those friendships in high regard. To keep positive relationships and to be helpful to other women. She says that if you see a women doing better than you, don’t get competitive but instead understand that she is just a little further ahead in her journey. And learn from her. I enjoyed that sense of womanhood that she brings. Rose brings up how crucial it is to reevaluate your current friends to make sure that they are still good for you. ( I found this very relatable)
I am going to completely ignore her chapter on sex. (I disagreee with almost everything she says and it kind of allows room for rape culture to peak it’s ugly head up ) I don’t exactly agree with any of that. But that is her personal feelings towards the subject and really my face was like
She said if a guy is doing something you don’t like, try to make a joke about it, so he gets the hint………………………… Do i need to say why that is fucked? Her whole book revolves around men. How to get them, please them, attract them, fuck them. Things that I don’t need to hear anymore of.
Overall I don’t plan on ever coming back to reading this. I like her general ideas, but she needs to really think about what she is saying. And read more. And learn more.
I am already started on another book it is called A Young Widower: A Memoir
Pick it up and start reading along with me!