How to Be A Bad Bitch: Review

How To Be A Bad Bitch
Before any review, I want to tell people to read it for themselves, theirself? Whatever.

So I linked it above just so you can order yourself one!

My expectations are really high. I want Amber to SMASH down all those stereotypes that put women down. I want her be unapologetic for who she is, and tell everyone to do the same. I want her to show girls that relationships with other girls are so important, and to help other women succeed.

A lot of women, girls don’t hear these things enough. I love when celebrities do what they want shamelessly. I want her to be smart, cunning, I want her to use facts, and know how to cite them.

I really liked her starting line ” I’m writing this book because I decided to do something for myself, no fucks given.”

After reading it…

Somethings I really liked. Other things I felt Amber really contradicted herself. The first few chapters are very repetitive. She focuses heavily on achieving her look, and how she came to find hers. Which got boring quickly.

I loved some parts and other parts I did not. She was all about empowering other women. How to love yourself, how to dress for yourself. I loved all these ideas and positivity she came forward with.

Her honesty, and her point of view were refreshing. I  truly appreciate her past, and  how that creates her ideas, and the way she thinks. It is something that is very different from myself and I love that I can see through sher eyes.

Some parts I found slightly offensive. (EX: She talks about a girl who is not that attractive but because she dancing like she doesn’t give a fuck- she becomes attractive) I hated this line. She  is being so contradicting on all her preaching about how all women are beautiful and not to let another persons definition of beauty define you. But than she says this. Rose goes on to talk about what kind of friends all girls should have. She says every girl should have a gay best friend because they are always up on all the fashion, trends, makeup etc.. I feel like this makes takes away gay people’s humanity and makes them more of a token. Which bothers me. (But what does that mean  because as a non gay person. I can’t say what is or what is not offensive.) Another part I didn’t like, was when she talks about  how important it is to have manners and be nice to everyone. It’s a little reminiscent of step ford wives. Women can never be angry or show that you are upset. Keep calm and lady like. I hate that shit. If you are angry be angry and say some shit in the moment. I don’t think you always have to prim and proper. Moving forward. I disliked her section about what guys like. “Girls that play video games are always liked by boys” , girls who burp and fart are not attractive. Girls that get jealous. This is some stupid ass shit. Ignore it all.
I feel like she kind of missed the mark on pushing her feminist agenda.

However I appreciate her effort. In anything else, finding your true feelings and ideas takes time and learning. She points out how she used to slut shame, and how she came to the realization that it was wrong. And how she now knows it’s wrong and tries to stop people from making those same mistakes. Her compassion for people and seeing her try to be the person she didn’t have growing up is really endearing. She draws from her own life trials and makes it into a positive thing.

Amber Rose touches on her depression, and her anxiety. She describes it as a constant struggle and something she still deals with today.  Being honest about depression is something that isn’t common. It is one of those diseases, that is kept in the dark. She gives tips on how she personally handles herself.

She parallels, her past as a exotic dancer as being in business classes. She says that she had to learn to make men take their hard earned money out of her pocket and put it in her hand. I loved this part. She is unapologetic, she is honest about knowing how to use seduction to get what she wanted.

Rose focused heavily on the importance of relationships with other women and how important it is to hold those friendships in high regard. To keep positive relationships and to be helpful to other women. She says that if you see a women doing better than you, don’t get competitive but instead understand that she is just a little further ahead in her journey. And learn from her.  I enjoyed that sense of womanhood that she brings. Rose brings up how crucial it is to reevaluate your current friends to make sure that they are still good for you. ( I found this very relatable)

I am going to completely ignore her chapter on sex. (I disagreee with almost everything she says and it kind of allows room for rape culture to peak it’s ugly head up ) I don’t exactly agree with any of that. But that is her personal feelings towards the subject and really my face was like


She said if a guy is doing something you don’t like, try to make a joke about it, so he gets the hint………………………… Do i need to say why that is fucked? Her whole book revolves around men. How to get them, please them, attract them, fuck them. Things that I don’t need to hear anymore of.

Overall I don’t plan on ever coming back to reading this. I like her general ideas, but she needs to really think about what she is saying. And read more. And learn more.

I am already started on another book it is called A Young Widower: A Memoir
Pick it up and start reading along with me!

Chiraq Opinion

“It’s a satire based on Lysistrata. Spike Lee is known for directing tongue in cheek satire to highlight serious issues. I don’t think you can criticize a movie based on a trailer.

Comedy is a broad term while satire is specifically designed to poke fun at specific flaws in people or institutions largely in an attempt to draw attention or evoke change. It is a genre focused on highbrow social criticism. Lysistrata is a play about women who withhold sexual privileges from their men in order to negotiate peace in war. Lee is setting it in Chicago, one of the most violent cities in the country, in order to draw a parallel and highlight the issue in current times. As artists and “free thinking individuals”, we should be responsibly educating people who do not understand satire so they do not think this movie glorifies anything instead of lambasting a film no one in the general public has even viewed yet.”

A good Friend of mine, Marie Tredway– Wrote this.
I think she articulated her opinion, (and mine) it in a way that I couldn’t have.

To add to her point of view. I really appreciate Spike Lee and all that he does for the black community. He hires black writers, actors, crew members etc. He gives POC opportunities. Always bringing in new talent.  Unlike other black directors cough, Tyler Perry.  He casts POC in all roles. Not just the stereotypical ‘token black friend role, or the “Latina house keeper.” He puts people where their talents fit and can thrive in.  THAT is appreciated. He creates respectable roles that POC  can fill. Giving actors opportunities to show case their talents, which can lead to more roles.  Like how many token black friends, fast speaking sassy latinas, large black women that can sing\ are really funny, can there be?! I respect Spike Lee for what he does for the people.

Link to Lysistrata
Chiraq Trailer