We’re in a time where conversation can feels either exhausting, shallow, or fake deep. Headlines regurgitated with no curiosity. People talking at each other instead of with each other. Rage bait is over the top. People eager for engagement numbers and minimal to no connection. Everyone waiting for their turn to speak or perform or prove something. Where is the connection, where is the grace?!

And to be clear. I’m not saying we need to start chatting it up with the MAGA uncle who voted for a rapist and thinks empathy is “woke propaganda.” No. Absolutely not. That’s not what this is. I am also not saying you shouldn’t talk about the news and recent events because it IS extremely important to be aware. But like all things, I am calling for a better balance and saying it out loud. It’s okay to try and find joy even though there are millions of people dying around the world at the hands of ruthless and careless leaders guised as fearless and tactical.

I’m talking about your circle. Your people.
Your friends who’ve been in the group chat for years but haven’t actually connected in a meaningful way in a long time.
The ones you love but don’t really talk to anymore. Real talking likeee beyond memes, Amazon links, or half-hearted “we should catch up” texts. If this isn’t you. I applaud you, and pls share your tips.

I’ve been thinking about what it means to have better conversations and by better, I don’t mean more intellectual. I mean more alive. More curious. More rooted in connection, joy, healing, and imagination. Because right now, in a world designed to drain us, keep us isolated, and pit us against each other talking about what makes us feel human is resistance.

And yes……………………….I need to do this more too. I’m writing this for me, just as much as for you.

Friendship and community are not frivolous.
They are revolutionary.
They are how we remember we’re alive.
They are how we get free, inch by inch, joy by joy.